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Is drama ruling your life?

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This morning I awoke to a massive realisation.

I realised that there’s a fine line between being brave enough to seek support
And to fall into the drama trap

I realised that there is a difference between the problems that every human experiences from time to time
And the same problems that recycle again and again

I entertained the idea that maybe
Just maybe
I’m a drama queen

I went on a search of a diagnosis:

Step 1 a proper definition: Google tells me a drama queen is:

A person who habitually responds to situations in a melodramatic way

Hmm, I do love a bit of melodrama and yes, I also like to respond to situations – go on, I thought.

Step 2 look for symptoms:

Venting: I started poking about to find out more about when venting about life’s challenges becomes drama queen fodder and found this passage;

“…there are people who CHRONICALLY “vent.” And those people, 9 times out of 10, are creating their own drama. Their venting is really just a way of shirking responsibility for doing so by blaming someone else, making themselves a victim, and those who coddle them do nothing but enable their victimhood. They are venting because they are looking for validation. The more you validate them, the more they will vent. It’s a cycle” (from ‘In My sacred Space blog‘)

So there’s venting and then there’s VENTING.

Focusing on the worst case and disaster: The paradox in this one is the way in which our culture is shaped to share bad (or dramatic) stories.  IF you share your good news you’re ‘up yourself’.  We even have ways to make our drama comical thereby glorifying the dramatic experience as entertainment.  Is this a symptom of a drama queen?

More symptoms:  This site is a bit annoying to use but shares some more symptoms

Step 3 Google an online test:
Next step in seeking my drama queen diagnosis, I googled a quiz: Are you a drama queen (or king)?  Take the test

 

So, it appears that I’ve not QUITE made drama queen status as yet, but I’m certainly well into my training program.

And I know this much, it’s a training program that I’ve noticed could generate quite a slippery slope so I’m jumping off.

It exhausts me
And there are SO many positive things to think about
I think I’ll look over there for a while.

How about you?

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  1. Jocelyn Edge

    September 22, 2015 at 12:59 am

    I used to be a MEGA drama queen. And though not full status anymore, I certainly still have my moments. And yes, it is so less exhausting not being a drama queen. So so so less/

  2. Karen-Louise

    June 19, 2016 at 9:40 am

    Definitely have the potential to fall into this category. I learnt many years ago to share good news not bad in an endeavour to uplift yourself and others (eg don’t share or talk about horrid news stories). Now, on occasions, I choose to not socialise if I sense there may be lots of drama sharing or if I am in an emotional state that would cause me to share or over dramatise things in my life. Definitely an improving work in progress

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